——2008年6月16日,星期一,刚才还在下小雨——结婚第六个年头
唉, 老婆说我这个人太没情调,就知道些什么行业博客,她说好像理论上真正的博客应该是"生活日记"或者"心情日记"……所以今天我也借机感慨一个,写点"生活杂谈":
说来惭愧,不知道身边的朋友是否都跟我 一样,曾经少年时自认为将来一定是一个风流倜傥极度浪漫人见人爱有情有义温柔体贴罗曼蒂克的大众梦中情人,也曾轻易向心爱的人许下诺言但回头就忘……可是今天回头一看,嘿嘿嘿嘿,原来自己并不是韦小宝!
我也曾经无数次尝试给自己打分,结果是年龄越大的时候,给自己打的分就越低……!!!
可能真的是因为要"三十而立"了,回头看看,我的婚姻确实没有像年少时梦想的那样轰轰烈烈沧海桑田海枯石烂惊天动地可歌可泣恨不得拍成电视剧。虽然意识到这点,不过我的心情还是很平淡,"而立"了嘛。
跟大多数普通人一样 经历了风风雨雨走过来的婚姻,虽然普普通通没有可圈可点之处,不过也波涛汹涌起伏不定过多次,归根结底我总结了一下,就几个字:
当初我们都太年轻了!
可 能年轻人犯的错误,我们两口子也都犯过,都那么固执、那么要面子、那么感情用事、那么耍性子、那么不懂的顾全大局、那么不懂的生命的真谛、爱情的真谛、婚 姻的真谛!!!我们一路走来,磕磕碰碰,跌跌撞撞,不过我们总算有缘,总算还在维系一个完整健康的家,总算没有因为一时冲动而酿下一生的遗憾。
这两天不小心被太太拉到IPTV前看起了《溏心风暴》,我对该片的评价是:"年轻的夫妻都来认真看看"(面带微笑,但表情严肃地说:-)
该片有几处让我颇有感触,套用剧中的经典台词就是:
1:关于人生:笑有时,哭有时,欢乐有时,悲伤有时!
2:关于爱情:你爱她,她爱你,人海茫茫,你们以为去找一个爱自己的人是那么容易的吗?
3:关于婚姻:执子之手与子偕老……做夫妻就要容忍对方的缺点……而且要一直忍,忍一辈子忍到底!
4:关于金钱:六亿家产,希望是福而不是祸!
没看过该片的人,我建议看完了再来看我的博客,嘿嘿嘿嘿,否则你会说我神经病的。
另外,近来,我还有一个关于人生的体会:"人生就是一场体验,因为所有人的结局都是死亡"。虽然听起来有点SB,不过道理很朴实,穷也好,富也罢,生不带来死不带去,每个人的生命只是有几十年的各种经历组成的,有很多美好的事情:
奋他乡遇故知、洞房花烛夜、金榜题名时;喜得贵子/千金、路上捡钱包、天上掉馅儿饼、六合彩全中;结伴出游、熬夜看球、烤肉啤酒、QQ泡妞;找到工作、升职加薪、收到情书、辞职创业、找到好搭档、得到投资、荣获大奖、公司盈利、海外上市……
当然也包括很多不幸的事情:
苦心志、劳筋骨、饿体肤、空伐身行、行弗乱所为;他乡遇盗贼、洞房喝烂醉、考试落孙山;出门摔跤、开车被撞、追女被甩、取钱被抢、赌博惨输……
只要生命还在继续,人生就没有结束;既然生命没有结束,就要积极面对,不管昨天发生了什么,明天都是新的一天;不经历风雨怎么见彩虹?没有任何人、任何事可以控制你的情绪,你的情绪由你自己控制,再惨的经历也都是过去,只要生命还在继续,明天依然可以笑对人生:-)
我用了30年才明白这个道理,也感谢《溏心风暴》让我有这个冲动写下这句话而又不显得那么单薄。现和将来在我最想做的就是认认真真体验每段经历,安安分分过好平凡生活,勤勤恳恳做好每份工作,兢兢业业演好每个角色……
发出该感叹的家伙:王利杰
>> 一个普普通通的好市民
>> 一个遵纪守法的好公民
>> 一个有情有义的好朋友
>> 一个忠肝义胆的好兄弟
>> 一个尽职尽责的职业人
>> 一个积极向上的创业者
>> 一个不太称职的傻老公
>> 一个童心未泯的胖爸爸
>> 一个自我优化ing的新人类
唉……洗洗睡了……Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
哎呀,忘了补上该剧中最受老婆大人喜欢的两受英文歌曲的歌词和下载链接(虽然老婆大人已经下载了MP3,不过歌词还是要滴)
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My Love Will Get You Home
From: Christine Glass
If you follow the wrong star,
my love will get you home.
If you ever find yourself,
lost and all alone, get back on your feet and think of me,
my love will get you home.
Boy, my love will get you home.
If the bright lights blinds your eyes,
my love will get you home.
If your troubles break your stride,
my love will get you home.
If you ever find yourself, lost and all alone,
get back on your feet and think of me,
my love will get you home. Boy, my love will get you home.
If you ever feel ashame,
my love will get you home.
If its only you to blame,
my love will get you home.
If you ever find yourself,
lost and all alone,
get back on your feet and think of me,
my love will get you home.
Boy, my love will get you home.
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Vincent
From: Don McLean
Starry, starry night
Paint your pallet blue and grey
Look out on a summers day
With eyes that know the darkness in my soul
Shadows on the hills
Sketch the trees and daffodils
Catch the breeze and the winter chills
In colors on the snowy lined land
Now I understand
What you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
And how you tried to set them free
They would not listen
They do not know how
Perhaps they'll listen now
Starry, starry night
Flaming flowers that brightly blazed
Swirling clouds and violet haze
Reflect in Vincent's eyes of china blue
Colors changing hue
Morning fields of amber grey
Whethered faces lined in pain
Are soothed beneath the artists' loving hand
For they could not love you
But still your love was true
And when your hope was left inside
On that starry, starry night
You took your life as lovers often do
But I could have told you, Vincent
This world was never meant for one as beautiful as you
Like the strangers that you've met
The ragged man in ragged clothes
The silver thorn
A bloody rose
Lie crushed and broken on the virgin snow
Now I think I know
What you tried to say to me
And how you suffered for your sanity
And how you tried to set them free
They were not listening
They're not listening still
Perhaps they never will
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PS,至于音乐内容,请自行购买正版作品,尊重作者的劳动:-)
>> 一个啰里八嗦的新唐僧
对了,不要轻易做出任何承诺;如果真心作出承诺,就要:
——此承诺为一生一世,直至死为止!!
最后想说的是:结婚就是一种承诺!